Choosing the Right Size For Your Submissive Day Collar

A submissive day collar is a type of discreet BDSM collar that looks similar to an everyday necklace. The day collar is generally worn after a form of commitment has been reached between a dominant and submissive. This is often referred to as a BDSM contract. There are also many who find self-expression can bring great happiness and will wear a day collar also. Collars are a way to show the dominant and submissive dynamic exists in your life, even if others aren't sure of its discreet meaning. Sub collars come in a wide variety of materials and styles and are a creative way to remind you of the unique relationship dynamic you have with your partner. They are a powerful statement piece the submissive proudly wears which reminds them of the bond that is held between the submissive and dominant partner. 


Choosing the right day collar can be exciting. There’s a lot to consider when making your choice. From our Captive Collars®️ to LGBTQ pride jewelry, there’s something for everyone. Beyond the look and feel of the day collar you are choosing, you will want to consider what the right size for you is. Choosing the size of a day collar is a personal choice that you will want to think about when ordering.


BDSM jewelry is made from materials like stainless steel, silver and leather. They come in a huge selection of styles, some shops like Captive Collars®️ even take custom orders. When choosing a day collar, it’s important to think about what it means to you and your relationship. Some pieces are for serious commitments similar to wearing a wedding band, some are a little kinky sexy fun. 

Does a day collar have to be the same size as a choker? While many think so, there is no rule that says that a day collar needs to be anything other than what you want it to be. It is a daily expression of your relationship. Every relationship is different. Each one is unique and it’s up to you how you would like to express yourself. Take a look at some of our best selling collars to find something that is right for you.


If you are looking for something kinky, you may opt for a tight-fitting collar that hugs your neck. An Obedience Collar is a great choice. Some enjoy the look and feel of a day collar but don’t want to feel restricted or choked. Some necklace collars are meant to be worn a little longer, this is to give you the discreet look you need to wear as often as you want, and the comfort for 24-7 wear. The Celtic Necklace is a well-loved example. There’s no right or wrong way when it comes to choosing a day collar. What’s important is that you find a collar that brings you a high level of satisfaction. 


Factors to consider when choosing a day collar


Comfort is important. No matter how much you like a particular collar, you are not going to want to wear it if it is too painful. The urge to remove it will be great if it is not comfortable. To know what size to aim for, take a measurement of your neck and look at a sizing guide. If you want a looser collar, adjust the size up one step larger. If you are looking for a tighter collar, choose a collar size that is closer to your neck measurement. 


If you can try practicing with something that mimics the size of your day collar, it can help you when making a choice of what size to order. A day collar can take some time to get used to, and if you are unsure, you can always try something larger and purchase a tighter collar in the future. Many people have a collection of more than one collar, as a variety of day collars can make things even more interesting. 


Many people start out with a day collar that is comfortable and make changes as they get used to wearing it. If someone is not accustomed to wearing a choker each day, it may not be the best option to begin with something restrictive. To get an idea of what you are comfortable with, take a necklace that you wear and adjust it to see how you feel wearing it at a shorter length. With this in mind, you can have a longer-length day collar for everyday use while having a separate play collar that you can use for special occasions. This will give you a higher level of comfort in your day collar. Yet, when master puts on your play choker collar, you will have a heightened sense of sensation that will bring you a greater level of excitement. 


 There’s nothing like the excitement that a day collar can add to your relationship. Purchasing and wearing your first day collar is sure to be an experience that you will not forget. The most important consideration is to purchase something that you will love.